Anders,
You were somewhat misled on the influence of shock absorbers. The latest, fully adjustable shocks are tunable for low and high speed response in both compression and rebound. Consequently, shocks can tune your car's performance even in relatively long transitions. You may wish to search for a very similar thread posted within the last 2 weeks.
The short answer is, start with the most adjustable and rebuildable shocks you can afford. If you still can't tune the handling to your liking, then start experimenting with springs. If you start the other way around, springs first, you may end up choosing spring rates too much for your shocks to control.
The stock GEN II suspension geometery has a nearly perfect amount of anti-dive and anti-squat. Consequently, the springs that work best to prevent dive and squat typically come real close to being what you want for roll control. Here's a hint: virtually nobody offers replacement swaybars, virtually everybody offers shocks and springs.
If you're running street tires, you may also wish to rethink the urethane suspension bushings. They will indeed enhance feedback from the suspension (what some people call harshness). However, their primary benefit is more precise control of wheel travel. This is important for race tires which are relatively sensitive to scrub, camber, castor, etc.... Street tires, though, are more forgiving of these small movements, leaving you with just the harshness which you mentioned you didn't want.