Let's keep the conversation to the original topic...should a 3 month old be exposed to a snake ride?
In my opinion no. But for different reasons. Been there done that with offshore boats, have pictures of her sittiing in my lap when 2 weeks old when the boat was on the lift. I should have left it at that.
Instead she took rides in the boats, when she was old enough to talk she rejected them, in strong words.
I finally realized I scared her at too young an age to absorb the experience. Just the noise and motion.
A child that age is just going to recognize sound and motion....not good for our cars.
You may well scare her forever and she won't be a interested in the stuff with gasoline running throught it.
It took me a long time to get mine over that mistake. Fine now but we wasted a few years while she got over it, NOW I can't slow her down! Don't make that mistake with yours, you want to enjoy the toys with her when she is able to appreciate them. That sharing stuff is important to guys like us.
Don't blow it, wait till maybe 18 months..2 years. You have to able to communicate at least a little to share an experience and tell her about it as it is happening. That gets rid of the fear.
Don't worry about your wife or the conflict of disagreeing with her. She may have different reasons or fears but just think about what I said. For YOUR reasons.
Be patient and you will have a "car girl" to share the rest of your life with. Not some one who says she is not interested in going for a ride when she is 12.
This made me think of a great quote from the original Father of the Bride movie.
"A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life."
My daughter is 24 and it all turned out great, the above is really true, you just have to be really careful not to screw it up, it's easy to do. Don't push.
Oh, almost forgot, put her in the car, in the drivers seat, and take a bunch of pictures, do it every year, topped off by the year she gets her license. You won't believe how cool that is if you do it. Finally she will reach the steering wheel! Even if it's every five years or so. She will love it when she is finally of driving age.