Well, it just comes down to a very personal decision to just do it. Sounds like you have not hit rock bottom yet or you would have the "I am through with how I feel and am making a change no matter what" attitude. It is hard, I know and you have many others here that know as well. I can tell you it is not easy or everyone would be in shape. Myself I am 5' 8" and am currently at 210 lbs. When I was younger and played semi-pro hockey, I was 175lbs and solid muscle. at 39 now, I am not anymore. So realistically I am 35 lbs to 40 lbs overweight from where I should be. Just haven't felt like getting back in shape yet but pretty close to that point of doing it. Health issues of last couple of years wiped me out and though I am not obese despite being an obese individual character on the Nintendo Wii (Ha! Ha!) I have obese health issues presently. Getting in shape is a very personal journey. At your weight, I would suggest diet and just stretching and walking. To support 350 lbs, you have to eat a ton. Cut back to just drinking ONLY water and eat healthy and often. Eat 6 times a day but really watch what you eat and always pair a protein with carbs and vegetables. Closed fist size for protein, closed fist size for carb and eat as many vegetables as you want. Remember that breads, etc. are carbs too. Dairy is optional as many are lactose intolerant. Make sure to take a multi-vitamin and that is it for diet. As far as exercise, just focus initially on walking and just simple stretches. Walking in a slow and power walking form is a great way to lose weight when starting at a very heavy weight. Try to walk in the morning and at night, work up to around 5 miles a day. You will be amazed at just how much better you feel and how motivated you will be. Forget the scale. Just make the changes, commit, no matter what is going on in your life and in 1 month, step on the scale. I guarantee if that doesn't motivate you then you need to check your pulse, because you are probably dead and sitting on the toilet already. Good luck and best wishes.