I hate to say it, because I agree this is the number one problem in America, but it will never happen. You can't roll back the clock of irresponsibility and laziness. While the current Admin might bring this to a whole other level, it has been happening for years.
I agree with the rest of your post also, except for one observation. As performance cars have gone from 200 HP to 600 HP over the last 40 years, driver skills have stayed neutral (at best), roads are more crowded, people are multitasking, and life in general is more hectic. The car power vs driver skill issue alone represents a widely diverging set of curves. They will never intersect again, even though people like us and perhaps the Europeans try as best they might. It is a death curve.
You can argue about it all you want. But the global skill level will never rise because a few people here say "learn to drive". So you have to look for other solutions.
I understand that, Cop, but my point is, I'm afraid this particular solution will actually make things worse instead of better. I think we agree with have a lot of drivers on the road who are incompetent with 200 hp, let alone 600. I tell you what; let's look at this from a different angle, and see where T/C and/or ESC do the most good, and why.
We know ESC can be very helpful, with a typical driver in a minivan, a pickup, or an SUV. Why is that? Well, these vehicle types usually have a higher center of gravity than a typical sedan, much less a sports car. This makes them inherently more unstable, especially in everyday driving situations, where a driver may need to make a sudden evasive lane change, or a panic stop from highway speeds. Do that in one of these vehicles without ESC, and even the best driver will find that it gets unstable, sometimes to the point of approaching loss of control, even at perfectly acceptable, legal speeds. Now, factor in wet, icy, or uneven pavement, the typical distracted/inattentive driver, or just a little too much speed, and things get out of hand quickly. Does ESC help in that situation? Of course it does, and we all know it. There's no danger there of the presence of the electronic nanny encouraging anyone to take unnecessary risks, because it's fairly rare for anyone to attempt to drive such a vehicle way beyond practical and legal speeds; I don't notice too many people attempting to do burnouts, drift corners at high speed, or street racing, in minivans.
Now, take the typical family sedan. It's more stable, but hardly has race-car responsive handling. If Joe or Jane Schmuck has to make a sudden move to avoid a crash, ESC helps, as does ABS. Bear in mind, that Joe and Jane don't even know how (in most cases) to recover from a simple skid. Of course nannies help in most of those situations (again, at normal, legal speeds), because they're only being asked to provide a mild assist, not overturn the laws of physics., and once again, there's not so much danger of the safety net encouraging the typical driver to push way beyond his/her limits; except for the odd teenage daredevil showing off in dad's Camry. Anyone who knows which fuses to pull and has access to a skid pad can see the difference for himself; what the nannies do, is give a poor to average driver the recovery and control levels that would otherwise require a very good driver. So far, so good.
Now we come to the ultra-high performance sports car. I think that we can agree that driving something like a Viper, or even a Vette, is a "Look at me!" statement to begin with. On top of that, now the handling limits are much, much higher; even under fairly strenuous maneuvering, the car is stable and confidence inspiring, as is braking and acceleration. The car feels glued to the road, even at ridiculous speeds, in a way other vehicles simply do not. It's enough to make a novice feel like Michael Schumacher (which he definitely is NOT!) and now we have the beginnings of another problem; a driver as inattentive and low-skilled as he was before, but now, tremendously overconfident. That's before we add the electronic nannies. Without them, his minor bobbles (he will make some) turn into scary events, and sometimes, low-speed crashes. These, even the near-misses, have a tendency to bring Joe Schmuck back to reality in a hurry; having got a good fright, he either learns to respect the car, and gets some instruction in how to handle it properly, or (more likely), having soiled his drawers once, decides this is not the car for him, and goes back to driving something more in tune with his actual capabilities. Wait a minute, though; now, he doesn't have to make that choice; he can go out, buy an equally capable and powerful car, with the latest nanny tech, and those scary near-misses are a thing of the past. The nanny fixes all his minor mistakes for him, and he is king of the road once more, free to play and push the envelope to the limit, because (he thinks) the nannies have his back. All his old overconfidence is back, bigger and badder than before, as he sits behind the wheel of a car whose very nature says "Push me! Harder!" What made him feel a little safer in milder vehicles, now fills him with bravado. At this point, I don't think we're in Kansas, any more, Toto, and unless his increasing recklessness prompts the authorities to take his license first, he's an ultra-high speed crash waiting to happen. Numerous examples of the inevitable result can be found on the Vette forums, and wreckedexotics.com - the computer finally is overwhelmed by the laws of physics, and disaster ensues.
The point is, what was a worthwhile safety aid in other vehicles, becomes a further inducement to overconfidence and recklessness, when applied to a car which, driven in a normal and reasonable fashion, is so far below its limits that it doesn't need the extra help. It takes away the warning signs that should tell a novice, "You just pushed too far, too fast!" That's where the right technology, applied to the wrong kind of vehicle, can actually wind up doing more harm than good.
It's only human nature, to look for a one-size-fits-all solution to a problem; Hopefully, we can see by now that there isn't one, in the present case; so the next question is, where do we go from here? If we are going to continue to enjoy these ultra-high performance cars, we may need to agree that one needs additional qualifications beyond a standard drivers license, to operate them on on public roads. Don't scoff - we already do this for motorcycles, and certain commercial trucks, so why not? Why not require, say, a certificate of completion from an approved HP driving school (3 day course minimum) or a competition license from a recognized sanctioning body (SCCA, etc), to get the appropriate endorsement on one's drivers license. That would help, and is not unduly burdensome, in my opinion. I don't like more rules anymore than anyone else does, but if the alternative is not even being able to drive our cars to and from the track, might it not be worth it?